Art of Making Decision..

Art of making decision..for many of us, the biggest question is how to make the right or good decision in many situations. Often, it becomes difficult for us to decide on small things or how to solve them. And many times, we already know the accurate solution to the situation or problem, but we still hesitate to take it… And maybe this happens to all of us. Right?

In today’s time, we think a lot about everything, whether it’s breakfast in the morning or dinner at night. Even when we are sleeping, we are thinking about how the next day is going to unfold, what plan we should make, or how we should deal with it. This means that we have developed a habit of thinking everywhere, whether it’s a small matter or a big one.

For all these things, we mostly go toward two solutions – overthinking and sharing with others, and sometimes, we might find some solutions through these.

When I talk about overthinking, it’s like I’m fighting a battle in my own mind about a particular topic. There could be 100 thoughts, and I have to pick one. And if I talk about sharing with others, I have to deal with different personalities. Mostly, you’ll hear answers like, “I don’t know,” “You can do this or that,” “Maybe you shouldn’t do this,” “Maybe you should do this,” and so on. So, your mind will end up overthinking those responses too. Without intending to, by sharing with others, you return to your base state, which is self-thinking. Through all this, it becomes clear that the decision has to be made by us… meaning, we have to make the decision ourselves. So, why not set aside the unwanted mental battle and solve things in a better way?

In fact, self-thinking can make you better in many ways because we know ourselves the best, better than anyone else. And often, we need to make decisions emotionally, practically, or logically. But there’s one common way for everyone: to describe the situation. This means we need to take a pen and paper and break down the situation, where we’ll list both the positive and negative points.

Let’s take an example that everyone can relate to… If we want to go out for a meal and we have two good restaurants, and someone tells us to choose one, immediately, the question that comes to mind is, “Where will I get the best food?” Of course, food quality matters, but we might also think about other things… And many more questions will pop up in our minds. It’s not necessary that everyone prioritizes tasty food; some might prioritize other factors, such as: Is the restaurant clean? Will the staff be good? How will the service be? What will the price range be? There are multiple questions, but the solution is probably the same – differentiate between the positive and negative points, and compare based on our priorities. If our priority is being fulfilled, then making a decision won’t be so hard.

Even after doing all of this and making the decision, there might still be a little fear in our minds, thinking that our decision might be wrong. The possibility of anything happening is there, but we can only give our best based on our priorities and differentiating a few things according to our own understanding. Even if we make a wrong decision, we will feel guilty, but we didn’t do it with bad intentions. Instead of feeling guilty, we should understand our intentions and the effort we put in. If it’s wrong despite that, maybe it was our fate… but it’s not necessary that everything goes wrong. In decision-making, if we stay stuck in “what if this,” “what if that,” or “if only…” we might end up caught in these thoughts. Sometimes, we should listen to our own heart as well.

Now, we can understand that good decision-making can come from differentiation, priority, and some planning. And even if it goes wrong, no problem. We should take that experience, try again without getting frustrated, and try to correct what went wrong. After all, “trying” also plays an important role in our lives..